Satisfied vs Hungry – Great Expectations

As we head out to finish the first day of the new year 2024. As 2023 wound down, the final hours of what have been probably the first complete year since 2019 to be devoid of any restrictions for people movement, or interaction, it is time to step into a new year with time to pause, reflect and realise. Pause is a powerful tool and contains keys to secret chambers which you never knew existed, but always wished they had. SanKom Mind Spa wishes you and your families a very happy, and healthy start to 2024.

What is an expectation?

As per Oxford Dictionary, it is defined as “a belief that something will happen because it is likely” or “a hope that something good will happen”. Whenever we place a hope or belief that something will happen (irrespective of whether it is good or bad) without any influence of the probability of it happening. More often than not, as Oxford Dictionary captures it, we tend towards the likelihood of it happening than not. The human mind has the power to think with a higher level of positively when the outcome benefits self. However, some of us prefer to keep our hopes low- in scenarios with the belief that we do not deserve the best outcome. This is also in a way, an expectation. When someone is performing a task that has one or more outcomes that influences the activities we will take up, the human mind also interprets the situation, and predicts outcomes to prepare for. This is also a form of expectation.

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Let the games begin….. The doors leading to the new multiverse

Over the last few articles, we have looked into several topics that are associated with anyone growing up from being a young kid to a young adult about to step into the bigger shoes, and start to travel on their own. For some, the journey to travel alone might have started earlier, and the learning phase would be exponentially different compared to those that start with the phase after entering their first professional job or venture. Yes, in the modern age it is very much possible that a venture right after or even during the student phase is possible through various means and methods.

When a person graduates out of university after gaining a bachelors degree or a masters degree, the next logical step is to find a way to appease the knowledge buds that have been accumulating knowledge since the age of three, by providing the leeway to exhibit them. Over time, it will be clear that success is not a one time occurrence, and with adequate skill can be recreated in several fashions. One such instance would be the interviews for a professional job. At the start everything looks gloomy, and probably the size of Mount Everest and a bit more.

As with any aspect of life, looking at a difficult aspect from a bird’s eye view without knowing what is the reality, and trying to fully understand the requirements is impossible. Over time, adopting a Yo-Yo approach where alternating between being close to the action and staying farther away to consolidate the observations help. The duration of time spent near the action has to be modulated depending on the person’s capability to consolidate situations and interpret them. Over the course of time, the ability will improve. So, trust the process. Nobody can understand the complete story in one sitting and devise a perfect plan. Believe in the fact that a trial and error methodology will go a long way in defining one’s own character and allows for us to adapt our skillset.

Focus during the interviews:

Some of the major focus areas before and during an interview to be mindful of are:

  • Be Authentic
    • Be Yourself. One of the best pieces of advices I have received when trying to gather feedback from my seniors and team leaders whom I worked with was, never try to be someone you are not. Believe that you are good for what you are aspiring for, and work towards it. When you try to pose as someone you are not, either situations directly during the interview or immediately after will catch you off guard. And as the famous saying goes, “A lie, however good and however well thought of, never stops at just one.” Trying to be someone else is something you should avoid at all costs.
  • Practice
    • Practice is never sufficient just in the mind, and thoughts. Prepare yourself to handle difficult situations by making the most of mock interviews among peers. Assume roles on the other side of the table to frame questions you think you might be asked. And when you do it as a group of five or ten, make sure all of you are present during all the questions. You will be amazed at the pool of questions and possible thought processes into answering that you can observe. Again, remember the previous point, and stay authentic during this phase. The best answer is always what would you do in that situation, and not what someone else would do.
  • Stay Confident
    • Confidence is the fuel that will keep you running in this race, and successfully complete it. Everyone who finishes the race is a winner. Technically there is no pole position and last place on the grid. Everyone who does due diligence, and competes with the best of their abilities is a winner. During the process, you will for sure face some obstacles, some disappointments (results that do not match your expectations, or even wishes), and some difficult moments. Stay confident during such situations, and keep in close touch with your mentor. The process cannot be completed without a confident approach. Confidence.
  • Believe
  • Money vs Passion
    • Many young students lose track of their aspirations due to the longing desire and need to earn more money with their first jobs. In the process of setting the goal of earning a certain salary with their first salaries (baseline created based on friend’s circle, or relatives or neighbours or advertisements) one can easily lose touch with what one really wants to do. The purpose of acquiring the job must be set very firmly. If it is set for earning money right from Day 1, you are doing the process that will not suit the methods defined on any of our pages. The sole purpose of starting in a job must be to satisfy a passion, a means to learn new concepts, new ways to address a requirement. With time, one gets to increase the brand value of oneself, with which more money can be earned. But to start establishing the brand on a big scale, it requires a strong foundation, one that can be built with values gathered in university, and the initial years of professional life. Stay true to your beliefs and core values. Do not compromise on those for the sake of earning more money. You might fall into a soft-sand pit.

Professional life:

Upon completion of a successful of the interviews, and getting into a job of your choice, the doors to a completely new universe opens. One that has weak connections with the bonds you created during your university life, but with strong connections with the values and knowledge you built over the last 10-15 years of your life. When you enter this realm, just like the one after your first transition phase, you might have none of your school or university based connections in the same organisation, and in the same team as you do. However, do not lose connections that have been established over time due to being employed in a different organisation. Remember the following golden rules when navigating communications with your friends, family, and any relative/stranger who wants to know things about the organisation you work for, and the job you do:

  • Integrity
    • Over time, you will find a lot of forums and places where you will hear this term. Do not confuse this with your relationship with a person and what you share with them. Doing right when everyone watching is one thing, but doing the right thing irrespective of who is watching is what defines integrity. Staying true to your values, the values of the organisation, and staying true to all the regulations that bind your actions is of utmost importance. Any loose ends on this front will definitely not end in a happy storyline.
  • Confidentiality
    Data Protection
    • Another topic least considered in close circle conversations is data confidentiality. By data it does not include just numbers and figures, but any processed information about the organisation not available on the public domain (could be upcoming products, design considerations, methodologies, any special processes defined inside the organisation, etc). For sure, there is always a very inquisitive friend or uncle or relative who seems to know a lot about what you do, and can make it seem like a normal conversation. But, know these boundaries on what you can speak w.r.t. your job outside of your work place, and not. Every organisation offers a variety of trainings on the Integrity and Data Protection topics for the benefit of their employees. DO make sure that these are the first two trainings you undertake in your new job.
  • Respect
    • While staying true to your integrity, situations might arise where there are difficult confrontations with your immediate superiors or your peers. Confront these situations with a generous dollop of respect. Stay calm, and assert your position in a respectful manner. If your voice is not heard the first time, do voicing it unless there has been a view/confirmation that says otherwise. Just like the other two topics on the list so far, the lack of attention to this topic could also lead to falling off the cliff quite soon, and the world is too small to perform a Houdini act (no matter how well the MCU feels out of this world, it all falls inside the imaginative part of the world we all live in, and before you blink an eye, you will be back in your own chairs).
  • Passion
    • Demonstrate passion in your job through your actions. Various ways of doing this are definitely not by staying back after the usual work times every day, and by coming in on weekends to be ahead of the curve. 😋😄😄 However, this can be demonstrated by showing adroitness in learning new concepts, ability to deconstruct complex problems into small achievable problems that have solutions, and attacking the low hanging fruits. For sure, on Day 1, Rome cannot be conquered and Caesar cannot be defeated, but you can make progress slowly towards achieving your goals. Focus of areas where improvement is required, show willingness to receive feedback, and also eagerness to work on the improvement points identified from these feedbacks. A feedback need not come from just your supervisor, but from your contact partners.
  • Networking
    • The true strength of a professional isn’t only about their technical skills or team leadership abilities, but also their networking ability. In your first few years of work, you’ll have plenty of time and meet lots of people. This period is less stressful than the coming years. Use this time wisely to show your passion, trustworthiness, and integrity. This way, people will see you as a respectful and reliable person. The network you build during this phase will help you tackle several difficult situations that might arise in the future. In a way, they will form to become your Doc analogy as Marty had in Back to the Future.
  • Ignore Politics
    • Ignore the political hinderances you face. Take note, and just do not respond to the political incidents with any comment. Stay aloof. Getting involved in politics in the office space will only hinder your progress both as a person and as a professional.

That said and done, the journey inside a professional setup is a truly thrilling one. The journey might look challenging from outside, but the journey holds infinite outcomes with infinite possibilities to enjoy oneself. A plethora of paths can be undertaken after spending time in one of the areas inside the organisation. Do choose your first organisation and job wisely, and the first choice will always help you create a truly fulfilling experience that you will never regret 40 years from now. Stay Confident.

And on that note,

Stay Healthy, Stay Confident, Stay Safe, Stay Motivated, and let us keep the world moving….

Let’s Play…….

Fear of Change

Trust that you and your loved ones are staying healthy. There has been a long gap since the last topic on Mind Spa by SanKom. Kindly accept our apologies for the long break. Several aspects of our lives are undergoing a drastic change. Recently, SanKom moved over to a new country for work reasons, and following up with local processes, new culture, setting up things has occupied most of our time.

Imagine a colleagueC1 with whom you share a cordial relationship where respect, exchanges, support, feedback, and retrospective actions happen mutually on a regular basis. Imagine also a colleagueC2 who likes the way you are, but you do not share a cordial relationship with them. You also have several such relationships within the same organisation/mutual personal circles. During interactions with several members, you get to hear that some aspects of you need to change and could lead to an overall improvement in your character traits. Being a good listener, and a person who adheres by Smart Trust, you evaluate the feedback received, and prepare a change plan – A plan to change 🙂

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Be lead

Trust that you are keeping well amidst the growing case loads from CoVid and MonkeyPox. Please exercise extreme caution while heading out of your house and socialise. Kindly follow all safety protocols in public places for the wellness of your family, yourself and also other public.

Whilst we were young and in school, we always had class leaders/monitors who took the responsibility of maintaining order whilst the teacher was away due to personal or official reasons. Now, was it easy to be a class leader/monitor?

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Fly High, Fly Low

Trust that your family, friends, near-dear, and you are staying healthy amidst this growing virus threats that seem to be never-ending. Let us all follow all safety precautions with utmost sincerity & increase the chances of staying healthy.

How many of us have gazed at the open sky and seen hawks/eagles soaring high up in the sky?

I assume the majority of us have done it. So, what does a hawk or eagle have to do with today’s concept?

A lot, and along with two of SanKom Mind Spa’s earlier articles on Zoom-in, Zoom-out, Focus…. & Comfortable Challenge & Maintenance make the case quite strong. Let me start to break it down into smaller segments for better understanding.

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Start Meesic – Happy New Year 2022

Trust that as you read this article, you and your loved ones are in good health, and enjoying life amidst the new normal. With heavy rains lashing out in Chennai & coastal districts of TamilNadu all of a sudden, affecting normal life. Trust that the heavy rains or the consequential damages did not affect you & your families. And as we near usual party time in all cities, trust that you will have you best thinking hat on before being part of large social gathering.

Just as I mentioned party, what is an integral part of parties?

Dance?

Drinks?

Food?

Yes, Music. Some nice foot-tapping music is key to any good party along with enjoyable company.

Now, coming to creation of music, how does a music director compose music?

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SOAP

Trust that as approach the first festival wave in India near to Christmas & New Year, your dear ones along with you are staying safe. Please follow all safety precautions and keep social distancing along with Masking/Hand Hygiene at the top of your priorities.

Caution and precaution are key.

How many times have we made use of a soap?

Redundant question. Am sure all of us have made use of a soap almost every other hour in one form or another. So, what is the purpose of a soap? Have I gone mad asking these questions? Am I leading towards protecting yourselves from CoVid? No, not even close.

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e=mc^2 – Relatively nothing about Einstein

Trust that as you read this article, you and your loved ones are in good health, and enjoying life amidst the new normal. A lot is going on in India, with Dussehra happening, and coming to a conclusion before we head frantically into the grandest festival across India, Deepavali in a couple of weeks from now. Do continue to practice all safety protocols, along with personal judgement over participation in huge gatherings.

Let us consider a small event that happens in everyone’s lives, albeit some of us notice it, and others do not. Imagine you are preparing a cup of coffee/tea/drink for yourself/someone, and take a scoop of sugar in a spoon. Are you sure that all the grains of sugar you picked on the spoon are transferred onto your cup? Not even spilling a grain, every single time? A small grain of sugar falling on the floor is not visible to the human eye on first sight. However, the same grain is immediately pounced upon within few seconds by one of the smallest yet most disciplined creatures living on planet earth – ants.

What makes the grain of sugar not visible to us, the so called, superior beings pacing along the face of the planet?

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Thottaal Poo Malarum – The Touch

As you start reading through our article, we trust that you are staying healthy along with your loved ones. The only way to negate the impact of the Corona virus is by vaccination. Do get yourselves vaccinated & advocate vaccination for others. And while you do all this, follow all safety protocols.

Have you faced a situation where you have felt that you once did the task better & with ease, but couldn’t execute it with the same ease?

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Ganapati Bappa Moriya – Leadership lessons from Lord Ganesha

Hope that you are staying healthy & safe, and have got vaccinated against the Corona Virus.

Today, as we slowly try to regain consciousness after a lazy, yummy, sumptuous food filled Ganesh/Vinayagar Chaturthi, we try to gather some lessons we could learn out of Lord Ganesha.

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Procreate Smart Trust

Hello All,

Trust you are all staying healthy & safe. Please get vaccinated as soon as possible, as this is the only way to reduce the chances of catching this deadly disease & to reduce possibility of hospitalisation. Please follow all Standard Operating Procedures that we have been following since last March. Keep your young ones safe inside the house, & step out only if necessary.

Imagine you are traversing across a river on a 3’ wide rope bridge and completed 60% of the distance. You have two travellers walking ahead of you & one family member who is a few footsteps behind you. Suddenly, there is a gush of wind, and all of you seek support of the rails made of rope to steady yourselves before trudging forward. At the time you start to release the ropes from your grasp, your family member loses their footing and starts to fumble while screaming in fear. You are a novice trekker, and have no idea regarding the travellers ahead of you. What would you do in this situation?

Think.

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Lift-off

Hope that you have had at least one shot of vaccination and eagerly awaiting the second dose. Please continue to remain safe, and take all precautions followed during the last year and a half. The variants do not stop coming yet, and they are becoming more and more deadly as well as dangerous as we move on.

Hope you remember last week’s article regarding a trapeze where the artist has to swing through a sequence of horizontally suspended bars from one end of the floor to another. I had also spoken about how to apply the analogies into our day-to-day activities.

What is crucial to moving forward?

Whenever one needs to move from one side to another, every hand can only hold one bar. Holding two bars (as we discussed last week) is not feasible and not practical. One needs to master the art of swinging, and building momentum towards the direction we intend to travel. During this activity, a constant effort is mandatory to keep swinging and to build this momentum. Whenever we build this momentum, we travel along the trajectory of a projectile[1]. At the point when we release our existing holding, it must be at a point when we hold the maximum potential energy.

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Narendra and The Chair

Once upon a time, there was a boy named Narendra who used to make wooden toys for the village kids and sell in the market. He used to buy broken toys back from the kids in the village & sell them again in the nearby city for exorbitant sums. Even with this profitable business model, Narendra could barely support himself and his brother due to his spending habits. One day on his journey back from the city, he saw a chair that had a crooked leg & was lying by its side. Seeing it was abandoned, he decided to bring it home & keep it for himself. He kept it at the back of his house & forgot about the chair. As days went by, the work he had to do became lesser and lesser.

One fine day, during work, he remembers that he had brought a broken chair from the forest and wanted to correct it. Before correcting, to get a feel of it, he sat down on it. Little did Narendra know about the magical chair, that had a unique construction and only a highly talented person could mount it. Due to his immense toy-making talent, the chair accepted him and immediately transformed his shop into a toy factory with all of his designs & his secret toy-making tricks. The chair formed the pillars of his new toy factory with an entrance arch that resembled the chair. Bewildered by his change of fortunes, he decided to make the most of it.

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Trapeze

How many of you know what a Trapeze is?

Have you watched the Uneven bars competition during the Olympics/Commonwealth games?

Wondering why am I bringing the Trapeze and a gymnastic event into my weekly article?

For everything, there is a purpose.

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Hot or Cold | Long or Short | This or That

Hello All,

Hope you are all staying safe & healthy despite all challenges that CoVid pandemic has thrown at us.

Today, I need your support to help me guide you through the concept. All you have to do is pick one of the two options given for each category below:

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The three racing drivers, Triple-H

Today, we look at a simple concept that could help how you look at your life.

During a Formula-1 weekend in 2030, a reporter interviews three drivers who drive for teams at various positions on the championship.

The first driver when asked how his season has come about replies that he has been having a terrible season behind the wheel and has to deal with a car that is not performing up to standards of Formula-1.

The second driver when asked the same question answers that he is just doing what is possible to do with the car, & gathering points whenever possible with the car.

The third driver who is fighting for the championship answers that he is part of a fantastic project along with a team of engineers, mechanics & technicians, and loves his time in the team’s car.

Now, what is the difference in their approaches?

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Pacts vs Facts

I would like you to go into a parallel universe & start imagining below scenarios. A parallel universe where your actions do not bear any fruit, nor result in any repercussions. So, let your instincts & imaginations loose. Between each situation, you have to reset your thought process, and if possible, jot down your reactions to the situation before proceeding with the next situation.

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